becoming a transcriptionist!

Alright, look at me, posting more than once a week!

I just finished an application to become a transcriptionist. I’ve heard that there’s a high demand for them these days, and since I’m looking for a job that’s flexible, pays a living wage, and that doesn’t require a degree, I decided to look into it. It requires skills I already use at my day job — listening and typing verbatim with proper punctuation and spelling — so I figured it was worth a shot.

I’m actually feeling really excited to get started on doing transcription on the side. Since I can do it from home, maybe if I get really good and have decent income coming in, I can quit my call center job. In fact, I plan on it. I’ve always wanted to have a location-independent job, and now more than ever I want to make that happen.

There’s so much I want to do with my life, but working in an emotionally draining job like a survey call center saps so much of my energy that I often don’t feel like I have anything extra in me for other things. I used to have so much passion, and sometimes I still do — but I know I could have even more, if I was being compensated for doing something I believe in (instead of conducting push polls). While I never pictured myself as a transcriptionist, it’s at least a step towards the life I want to live. 

I can see myself working a home-based/location-independent job: decorating my office/desk space the way I want it. Always a pot of tea beside me. Making my hours how I want them — working early in the morning or late at night or in the middle of the day as I feel like or as is convenient for me. I could even do my transcription work at my favorite cafes. 

I believe I am worthy of the life of my dreams. The life of my dreams is slow, and sweet, with a beautiful home and a garden and a flexible schedule and room to dance, grow, learn, have impromptu tea parties, eat high-quality organic raw foods, put my daughter in an amazing school, and be able to be out in nature as often as we like. 

It’s not that transcription is the answer to my prayers. It’s that it’s the next step in my journey to crafting a life I don’t feel like I need to escape from.

A goal without a plan is just a wish.

Antoine de Saint Exupéry
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i am a vineyard.


“And in the autumn, when you gather grapes from your vineyard for the winepress, say in your heart,

‘I too am a vineyard, and my grapes shall be gathered for the winepress,

and like new wine my soul shall be kept in eternal vessels.’

And in the winter, when you draw the wine, have in your heart a song for each cup,

and in that song let there be a remembrance for the autumn days, and for the vineyard, and for the winepress.”

Kahlil Gibran, ‘On Eating and Drinking,’ The Prophet

I often don’t feel as though I have anything of interest to anybody else to say. Certainly I have many thoughts, both deep and shallow, thoughtful and focused, hurried and half-formed; I have many feelings, that span from dark and shadowy to light and inspiring. When it comes to writing down such thoughts and feelings, however, I’ve felt recently like I’m a bit in a dry spell; not too long ago, poetry seems to pour from my fingers like honey. Now I drink in poetry from other sources — from Kahlil Gibran, Nayyirah Waheed, Rumi, Mary Oliver . . . 

When my heart and my hands can’t seem to work together to produce its own poetry, I steep myself in poets. I let their metaphors sink into me, become part of my breath and sight, taste the wine of the Beloved on my lips. 

“Surely the fruit cannot say to the root, ‘Be like me, ripe and full and ever giving of your abundance.’
For to the fruit giving is a need, as receiving is a need to the root.”

Kahlil Gibran, ‘On Good and Evil,’ The Prophet

I’m a believer in the cyclical nature of life, in the fact that nothing can ever grow and grow and grow without ever resting; even the most invasive and determined plants have a time of year that they go dormant. There is no difference when it comes to our creative and spiritual lives. 

There are times when we seem to be unrelenting, generous vessels of creativity and light, like the grapes in the autumn. And there are times when we are the root, sucking at the nourishment of the compost the fallen fruit has become, drinking the wine that the grapes were pressed and fermented into. 

There are times when we cannot help but give nourishment to the world.

And there are times when we must receive nourishment.

It is a pity that we’re taught by our Western culture — especially those who are woman-identified or woman-passing — that receiving is shameful. In a linear, capitalistic, ever-growing society, there has been little respect for our innate, natural cyclical inner lives. 

But I see that changing. 

More and more people are seeing, understanding, and integrating the importance of self-care. Of pause. Of balance in this world of extremes.

And though I am at a time in my life when I am the root, not the fruit, and I am aware of the conditioned shame of that curdling in my stomach in my lowest moments — I am so grateful to be reminded all the time that it’s OK to rest. To draw inward. To know that change and transformation are happening deep in the shadowy realms of my psyche, of my inner world — even if the change isn’t apparent outwardly. And I am so grateful that in knowing that, I can be compassionate not only with myself but with others who are also in the fallow seasons of their lives.

Darlings, spring shall come again.

picking up discipline after putting it down.

I’d sit here and lament about how noncommital I am when it comes to blogging, but in truth, it would just be me whining about something that’s been a thing with every blog I’ve had, so I’ll leave it at: it’s been ten days since my last post. 

In all seriousness, however, I would like to get more disciplined about my blogging practice. Actually, I want to be more disciplined in all areas of my life. The benefits of discipline are well documented and largely based on common sense; after all, consistent practice of just about anything will get anyone amazing results in no time. It’s only when we’re not consistent that we don’t see results.

For those who are into astrology, I’ve got an interesting mix of signs that are funny to look at when it comes to discipline. I’ve got a Gemini Sun — an air sign, for those who don’t know — which means I’m like a butterfly: very flighty, indecisive, and interested in many things, leading me to flit from one interest to another at whim,

Then there’s my Virgo Rising, which means I crave stability and consistency, and I am well aware of the benefits of discipline when it comes to my personal growth and health. My mom was a Virgo Sun, and she is one of the most stable and disciplined people I know. Unfortunately, having an airy sun and an earthy rising means it can be hard to honor both my longing for variety and my longing for a predictable rhythm. 

And then there’s my Pisces Moon. You can take that to mean I’m super emotional, sensitive, and daydreamy. 

So, I know that if I’m going get more disciplined in all areas of my life, I know that I need to take those three qualities of my personality into account. If I get too flighty, then my efforts at a daily rhythm are out the window pretty fast. If my days are too predictable, though, I get bored and pretty fast my routine ends up not a routine at all. My discipline also needs to leave lots of room for self-care, rest, and flights of the imagination.

I haven’t quite figured out how to do all that yet. I’ve tried a few times but something always seems to get in the way. For example: ten days ago I had a morning routine of yoga, pilates, hooping, meditation … then I got sick and felt like CRAP for a week, specifically in my digestive system, and ended up just plain not having the energy. So now I’m out of my rhythm, and my stress levels show the consequences (well, it’s mostly my financial situation’s fault for my stress levels. Work hours are cut back, it’s the holidays, I might have to sell off some things I really don’t want to sell just to get money for Christmas whatnots as well as my January rent and bills… but keeping a self-care routine would help those stress levels significantly. After all, wallowing in stress about money doesn’t exactly bring the money pouring in.).

But something I do know is that every day is a new opportunity, and every moment I can make the decision to take care of myself in a meaningful and healthful way. 

And perhaps that’s the key to a new discipline for me. I’ve got a calender, a journal, this blog; I can write down, as part of my morning routine, three things I want to accomplish that day. Then, whatever else happens, I have the stability of those three things. That method may provide what my adventurous self, my home-based self, and my emotional-self all need.

Okay then. Here’s my three things for today:

  1. Get my laundry done.
  2. Take Luna to the playground.
  3. Go get a Christmas tree.

There are other things I want to do, like meditate and stretch, but those three things are my priorities. 


I hope whoever reads this is having and continues to have a beautiful and blessed day of abundance, love, and fun. Get outside and breathe the November air. Eat something delicious and nutritious. Get your hygge on and light some candles while drinking hot cocoa and reading out loud together (that’s what I’ll be doing later while my laundry is in the washer and the rain comes down). 

355. experiences are only bad if you don’t learn from them.

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Yesterday, after a very busy day of running back and forth around town going to a business meeting, picking up my last CSA box of the season, and doing laundry, I went to my daughter’s father’s place to dogsit/housesit for him and his partner. On the way, I stopped by the store, and decided to grab a bottle of cider made from nettles (I’m a sucker for anything with nettles in it). 

I always thinking drinking is a great idea, until I actually do it. 

It’s funny because a lot of people think just one drink once or twice a week is actually a really great example of healthy moderation, and for many people, I think it is that way. However, I’m reminded every time I have one (1) drink that for me, moderation is none at all.

My one drink feels great while I’m drinking it. That nettle cider was tasty, I won’t lie, and the light feeling I got from it was rather nice since I so rarely drink. But then I get to deal with the almost immediate consequences:

  • Extraordinary difficulty getting and staying asleep. Some people find alcohol helps them sleep. Not for me. Last night, I got a grand total of maybe 2 hours. Why?
  • Anxiety. Suddenly I’m spending two hours vividly imagining tense conversations that have not happened yet and probably won’t happen. Suddenly I’m remembering scenes from that one scary movie I saw years ago that made me afraid of babysitting for months. Suddenly I’m incredibly worried that every little thing I’ve done wrong in the last several years are going to come back to bite me in the butt all at once, probably in the next few weeks.
  • Of course, all that anxiety and no sleep means I feel very blue the next day, maybe the day after that as well. I’m questioning my worth. My value. My ability. If I’m not careful, that can make me spiral down into a week-long stormy cloud over my head.

just because something is okay for everyone else, doesn’t mean it needs to be okay for you.

It’s OK if, for you, moderation means pretty much none at all. That’s what I have to remind myself of when I’m thinking of crossing my own boundaries and doing what I know isn’t going to make me feel good (and ends up being a waste of $8.75, to boot). 

I also have to remind myself that one bad decision doesn’t make null and void all of my other, better decisions.

In the past week, some good decisions I have made for myself are:

  • Switching up my daily 2 cups of coffee for 2 cups of yerba mate. 
  • Drastically reducing my bread-and-cheese intake.
  • Doing 30-45min of yoga, pilates, and hooping every morning. 
  • Staving off my urge to distract myself with sex by choosing instead to work out, call my mom, go to a success seminar, going for a nature walk, read, and write in my journal.
  • Standing up for a personal boundary in a calm and respectful but clear and firm way.
  • Letting myself rest when I feel stretched thin.

My one bad decision yesterday to drink a 16.9 fluid ounce bottle of hard cider does not cancel out all the good I’ve done for myself, nor can it stop me from doing good things for myself today. 

Because that’s, I think, the biggest part of self-love: self-forgiveness and moving on. If you can forgive yourself for the small mistakes and live a vibrant and integrated life anyway, then just imagine what you can do for yourself and your life when the bigger mistakes happen.

Because they will happen. 

But because you have practiced self-forgiveness on a daily basis, you know you’ll be better than okay.

Every morning is a new day. Every moment is a new opportunity to be just 1% better than you were before.

356. you are worthy of growth.

why do you resist your blessings?

why do you put off what you know will help you?

Why do you tell yourself, “I’ll get to it tomorrow,” or, “After I….” ?

Why do you resist what makes you come alive?

I bet you never knew / there’s a universe inside of you

Can I,  by Alina Baraz & Galimatias

Are you afraid of stretching yourself? Of growing into the light? Are you afraid that you might feel…ecstatic? Content? Beautiful? Powerful?

Or are you afraid that you don’t deserve it?

That your past makes you unworthy? Incapable?

I have a secret to tell you. 

The tallest trees have the deepest roots. The most healthy, flourishing plants have the most complex and intriguing root systems. 

Roots dwell in the darkness. They are what enable the plant to reach for the light.

The darkness of your past is compost for your future.

You are more worthy than you realize. Your roots run deep. The rain that pounds overhead is what has been feeding you. The sun is waiting eagerly for you to break your lush shoots through the soil.

You will never be rid of your roots. Your roots will always dwell in the deep, fragrant soil. 

Let your roots ground you and accept growth. Accept the discomfort of struggle.

Do it because you crave it. Even if it’s scary. Even if you’re not sure you’re strong enough.

You are. You are.

The world is waiting for you to bloom.

But in the end, it’s all your decision.

are you ready to accept your birthright?

“Conditions are never perfect. ‘Someday’ is a disease that will take your dreams to the grave with you. If it’s important to you, and you want to do it ‘eventually,’ just do it–and correct your course along the way.”

Timothy Ferris

It starts today.

I recently went to a success seminar lead by a prominent philanthropist who, eight years ago, was living in a two bedroom apartment with 5 roommates, and couldn’t hold down a minimum wage job. One of my big take-aways from the seminar was this:

Today, whatever it is you long to do, whatever it is you’re trying to accomplish,

try to be just 1% better than you were yesterday.

Just 1%. That’s it.

Do it again tomorrow. Just 1% better.

And the next day.

And the next.

This time next year, you’ll be 365% better.

1% doesn’t sound like much. It may not even look like much. 

But next year, you’ll see the difference.

and trust me. you are worthy of that.

Day 358. gratitude morning.

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  • I am grateful for the way sweat lets my thoughts and anxieties out when all else fails.
  • I am grateful for public libraries. I am grateful for self-education.
  • I am so thankful for yerba mate, and I am thankful for being able to laugh at myself yet again–why do I ever think coffee is a better idea when this stuff makes me feel so good?
  • I am full of gratitude for the slow, soft November dawn.
  • I am grateful for my daughter’s absolute goofiness and sweetness. I am grateful for her wild, and I am grateful that life has shown me how important wildness is, and I am grateful that I live somewhere that supports my goal of raising her with love for her wildness.
  • I am so, so thankful for the safety and security I have. For my access to healthful food. For being able to work, so that I can meet my and my daughter’s needs, and have some left over to have fun, and to help others. For this apartment, with roommates that are also best friends, with a park just a couple minutes walk away.
  • I am so grateful for the friends I have had, have now, and will have. Friends make life less lonely, less scary, more hopeful, more beautiful.
  • I am so grateful for this body of mine. For my birthing scars and nursing scars and working systems and luscious curves. For my relentless heartbeat and ocean breath.
  • I am grateful for the coming and the going. For the quickening and the slowing. For the loud and the soft. For the birthing and the dying. The growing and the fallowing. I am grateful for every microcosmic and macrocosmic, internal and external spiraling cycles of this beautiful and terrifying and serendipity-adoring and oh-so-worth-it universe.

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366 Days of Solo Sovereignty [Days 1-5] What My Wanderlust Really Is.

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Wednesday, November 7th, was the New Moon in Scorpio, and Lunar Samhain — the day when the veil between the worlds is thinnest. Lunar Samhain is just about the best time to cast away the old and bring in the new. It is the Witches New Year (some witches celebrate this on October 31st to coincide with Halloween festivities as well).

For weeks, I had been restless inside.

What I desperately wanted to do (escape to the wildnerness for days on end) wasn’t possible when I don’t have a car, or proper camping equipment, and have the responsibility of working so I could pay rent and meet my daughter’s needs. I felt sad and lost and sluggish. I felt homesick for something hard to name. I felt like I was forgetting something terribly important.

Wanderlust

We long

for the

wildnerness

and forget

it is within

our souls.

from cycles

But I’m not the naive girl I once was, who didn’t know what her restlessness meant, and so chased it in places that didn’t quell it but rather, made it worse.

When the wilderness is out of our reach for reasons out of our control, yet we feel we must die if we don’t do something wild and reckless–that is our souls, crying out for us to release the chains that bind us from becoming fully ourselves.

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I came home the night of Lunar Samhain, with my daughter in tow. She plunked herself in front of a movie, and I looked about me with that restlessness sparking at my fingertips. What I must do, the root-deep knowledge and need that had been swelling in me for weeks, was unignorable.

knock knock on my roommate/best-friend’s door.

“Yes?”

Leaning against the door frame. Looking her in the eye. “I think I’m going to do it.”

It took her only a moment to know what I was talking about. “I’m ready now.”

I arranged a small altar on the bathroom counter. “If I don’t ritualize things, they don’t stick in my mind,” I explained as I lit candles and nag champa.

I sat on the orange plastic bathroom stool.

“You’re sure?” she asked, holding my curling hair in her hand, scissors and electric shaver ready.

“I’m sure.”

Tug. Pull. Bzzzzz. 

My hair fell away. Inhale, exhale.

I sacrifice my hair as a symbol of my commitment to myself for the next 366 days.

This is a releasing. This is a humbling. This is a symbol that I belong only to myself.

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On Samhain of 2017, I had recently separated from daughter’s father and had just moved into an apartment in the city. I was rebounding with the strength of a hundred rubber bands, and in the days leading up to 2018 Lunar Samhain, I realized that this past year has been a period of emotional detox for me. This year, I have intensely relived the relationship and love traumas and patterns that I have built up over the past decade of my life.

Since I was 14 years old, I have spent an inordinate amount of time either in unhealthy relationships, or pining after men, or lusting after them. I have never truly belonged to myself, despite my insistence in my past writing that self-love and self-exploration was the main focus of my personal life. But I have given my power away, again and again and again, and for what reasons?

I honestly am not sure yet. What I do know is that my mind is incredibly crowded with men, and not in a healthy way. I’ve realized that I don’t see men as whole beings, but rather as people I can project my traumas and patterns on. I do this because I don’t see myself as a whole being. I don’t embody wholeness, so I don’t see romantic or sexual pursuits as whole beings, either. I see them as tools who can distract me from the shadows and light that live inside me.

Every time I am faced with being completely single, my patterns rear up their ugly heads and wordlessly whisper, “If you are not being coveted and loved and lusted after, you are not worthy of being alive.”

It was horrifying to realize this about myself. When did this mindset take control, especially considering the incredible amount of books and people I have surrounded myself with who have inundated me with the value of self-love?

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Months ago, I came up with the idea of 366 Days of Solo Sovereignty, but hesitated to go through with it.

A year and a day (similar to the Wiccan spiritual “initiation”/learning period of a year and a day) of being completely single. No romance. No sex. Just….me.

It’s a scary prospect. My mind goes into a panic when I think about it: but but but–what if you meet someone you REALLY like? What if you get lonely? What if you really really really need intimate physical touch? You can’t get that from a vibrator. You know what happens when you’re single for a little while–you get super super depressed. What if…what if…what if…

But my heart gets fluttery. It goes, yes yes yes.

And my spirit takes flight. Yes yes yes!

And my soul settles down, relaxes, smiles. Yes. Yes. Yes.

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For the past five days, I’ve experienced the discomfort I expected when I decided to be completely single: I’ve had to hold myself back from calling that cute guy from work who gave me his number. I’ve avoided the irritating-but-great-in-bed card-player I’ve had an affair with the past two months and can’t seem to tell that I’m not interested in him anymore (people-pleasing–another pattern I need to break). I’ve forced myself to stay home and get cozy with myself when I’m feeling restless and lonely, instead of going out to that bar I’ve experienced plenty of men buying me drinks at.

For the past five days, I’ve also been thinking about the many ways I could use all this free time I now have on my days when my daughter is with her father. I’ve been reminding myself that this is a one-day-at-a-time venture. Every day, it’s me making conscious choices that I know are good for me, are going to connect me with myself: this morning I am going to read instead of check social media. This afternoon I’m going to write/draw/paint/clean/hunt for a job that doesn’t have me in front of a screen all day. Tonight I’m going to watch a thought-provoking movie/hoopdance/meditate/light candles and read/make soup.

Because that’s the point of these next 361 days. Learning what my life is like when it’s me I’m seducing, not someone else. Learning what my life is like when I’m centered in my own power and channeling it into my passions and my home. Learning who I really am when I’m not putting all my energy into being who I think my romantic/sexual interests want me to be.

Maybe this doesn’t sound like a difficult journey for some. But it is for me. Which is why I’m so thankful to have a circle of friends who are willing to hold space for me. Like last night–no light but candlelight, and us around an altar we created together, breathing, crying, laughing, speaking of what we’re releasing, and speaking of what we’re bringing in. Intentional, conscious togetherness.

I want my whole life to be an embodiment of intentional, conscious togetherness. I want to be a whole person. I want to see everyone I come in contact with as a whole person. I want to be the sort of person who holds space.

so mote it be.

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My living room. Last night, after our circle, I stood there looking at it, feeling overcome by gratitude for this space–knowing that my home is an extension of myself, and I can make it, and my life in general, into a haven of comfort, joy, safety, and sacredness.

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