want to make your life more luscious? These are some ideas I wrote down that I can turn to when I need help embodying my 2019 focus word “lush,” which helps me connect more deeply with my life on a daily basis, and helps me go from my head (overthinking mode) to connecting with my senses and my heart as an avenue to deeper spiritual connection.
Get up an hour before anyone else. Make tea. Practice gratitude. Stretch. Breathe and watch the change of the morning light.
Give thanks before eating.
Ask my spiritual guides for help in the midst of challenge.
Guided meditation. (I love Boho Beautiful’s guided meditations on YouTube)
Write and draw a bit every day.
Practice ukulele every day.
Meditate, draw, and play music WITH my daughter. Do yoga WITH my daughter. Include her in my interests.
Learn one new hoop trick a week.
Bring my art supplies and my oracle cards to work and use them between calls.
Go for a walk in the park more days than not.
Collect sticks and rocks to decorate with my daughter.
Read inspiring books.
Invite friends to hang out with my daughter and I (don’t assume people don’t want to hang out with a four year old).
Hang out with inspiring and active people.
Drink herbal infusions.
Eat mostly whole foods.
Read to Luna before bed.
Sing before bed (before Luna and with my self)
Go on a hike with Luna once a month.,
Say no to that which drains my energy in destructive ways.
Say yes to that which feeds my soul.
Ask thought-provoking questions of myself and others; things like: “What’s the strangest thing that’s ever happened to you?” “What mundane act feels like a spiritual experience?” “What inspires you?” “What’s the hardest thing you’ve experienced, that ended up leading to something beautiful?”
Log out of social media. Stay logged out for at least a month at a time. Continue being logged out for as long as it feels freeing.
Get a window shelf. Learn how to grow plants. Start with easy-to-care herbs, houseplants, and simple greens like lettuce.
Fast periodically (in healthy, well-researched ways).
Take candlelit baths weekly, with bubble bath or bath bombs.
Wear beautiful clothes that are also comfy and practical.
Take a dance class.
Take an art class.
Go to poetry slams.
Go to pools, and open gym days at gymnastics centers for kids.
Speak the truth around the children (don’t assume they won’t understand)
Go see live music, with or without Luna.
Do low-key guerrilla art.
Pick wildly growing “weeds” and herbs, use as bouquets.
Buy flowers just because.
Use beautiful notebooks.
Use beautiful pens.
Hold potluck inspiration evenings, where everyone brings a favorite dish and something that inspires them.
Call my siblings just to say hi.
Once a day, stand with arms wide open.
Listen to music that enlivens the body, heart, and soul.
spotify obsessions: what i’ve had on repeat this week
Xiuhtezcatl ‘s album Break Free. This extraordinary man is the rapper version of Nahko Bear (who I’ve been a fan of for years). If you like music centered on spiritual activism, you’ll love this artist.
Fearless Soul’s playlist Spiritual Workout – Intense Presence EDM Gym Fitness Workout. This playlist alternates between ‘normal’ EDM songs … and Law of Attraction speeches set to EDM music. This playlist is awesome if you want to get a confidence and motivation boost while you do your cardio (or you’re walking to work, which is what I use it for)!
alxrnbrdmusic’s playlist Indie/Indie-Folk Compilation – Winter 2018. This playlist is my go-to for staring out the window at the winter rain and wind while a cup of tea warms my hands.
Yaima. A woman with an incredible voice, super-chill songs, and a message of love and personal growth.
bookworm Obsessions: what I’ve been reading this week.
So You Want To Talk About Race by Ijeoma Oluo. A must-read for every single white person who wants to be an effective and non-patronizing ally for black people, indigenous people, and people of color. I learned so much from this book that I hadn’t been aware of before, such as “tone policing” and “the model minority myth.” This book is fantastic for oppressed demographics to read as well, as Oluo provides a lot of suggestions for them to stand up for and care for themselves in a world that is constantly demanding their emotional labor while at the same time mostly ignoring their needs.
The Dark Side of the Light Chasers by Debbie Ford. Personal growth and self-care does nothing if it’s focused solely on ignoring the dark side of life and bathing yourself in glitter bath bombs. This book is an effective and widely acclaimed course that explains in understandable and relatable ways exactly what our Shadows are, why accepting and integrating our Shadows is some of the most important personal growth work we can do, and provides exercises in every chapter for how to do exactly that. If you’re ready for some real progress in your spiritual path, this is the book for you. Be prepared to cry, to laugh, to discover things about yourself you never knew, and to write pages and pages and pages in your journal.
The Brie’s Submission series by Red Phoenix. This is my go-to smut series for when I need something fun instead of serious, but it’s not just a smut series. This series is written by a real submissive, in a real D/S relationship, and serves as a peek into the BDSM and D/S world for people who have only ever experienced vanilla relationships. Phoenix does an extraordinary job with these books — unlike other kinky novels I’ve read, the characters are relatable, with depth and the ability to pull at my heartstrings. The plot is interesting and fun and, at times, heartbreaking.
film obsessions: what I’ve been watching this week.
Netflix stand-up comedy. Iliza’s Elder Millenial got me laughing tears, and Trevor Noah delivers a show that is both hilarious and thought-provoking.
The Guernsy Literary and Potato Peel Pie Society on Netflix. This movie is both heart-breaking and feel-good.
The CW’s reimagining of Charmed. This new version of Charmed has had mixed reviews, due to its radical differences from the original; however, being the sort of person who likes to watch movies and shows for themselves rather than comparing them to their “originals,” I rather like it. I love that they’ve woven many widely-talked-about modern issues into the new series, including LGBTQ+ issues and #metoo-era subjects like consent and prominent men outed as sexual predators. The fact that the Charmed Ones are women of color is the icing on the cake. My only complaint thus far is that their whitelighter acts much as their authority figure, rather than as a guide; his patronizing quality right from the get-go has gotten on my nerves. Something I loved about the original was how independent and self-sufficient the Charmed Ones were — much of their challenges and strengths were borne out of having to figure it all out themselves (for the most part).
This is a new weekly series I’ve decided to try out. I hope you enjoyed it, and I look forward to posting again soon!